What (not) to do during a career crisis

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt stuck in your job.

Keep your hand up if you’ve felt alone while navigating your career.

Now, keep your hand up if you’ve sent out dozens of LinkedIn requests asking potential mentors for advice, but never got a single response.

More likely than not, your hand is still up (ok, you can put it down now). Look, feeling stuck or alone or helpless in your career is not an anomaly. These are shared experiences many of us face as soon as we step into the working world.

Let’s take me, for example. For the sake of proving my point, I am opening up my life to be metaphorically dissected.

Vulnerability at its finest.

My Career Crisis

Fast forward 3 years later, and I was having a panic attack at my brother’s graduation because of the overwhelming anxiety and self-doubt I was experiencing.

This breakdown is called a modern day “career crisis”. All of a sudden, the sheen of my first job out of college wore off, and the crushing realization that I didn’t have a “life plan” absolutely annihilated my semi type-A personality. My brain suddenly became a whirlpool of self-doubt, confusion and self-deprecation, which are ugly feelings to experience on a daily basis.

What I didn’t realize at the time was my conscience was trying to convey to me that I was not happy.

The Breaking Point

I’ll keep it short and sweet on what happened next: I broke down.

Your mind and body can only handle so much self-deprecation until they both break down simultaneously.

The Step Forward

As cliche as this sounds, I escaped to the mountains. I booked a trip to Banff and spent 3 days scrambling through the Canadian Rockies.

Getting away from my problems helped me gain the clarity I needed. I got the space to reassess my life, understand what truly makes me happy, and devise the actionable steps I had to take to achieve that happiness.

Sometimes, all you need is a change in your environment to inspire a change in your life. That in itself builds the momentum you need to move forward and not remain stagnant in indecision.

The Light at the End of the Tunnel

I didn’t feel like I had an extensive network to reach out to and simply understand what should next for me and this is my biggest regret and gap. So if there is one thing you learn from this lengthy anecdote, it is this: please take the time to talk to people and ask for help.

There is power in seeking out support.

Let’s put it this way — the companies you admire most likely have a Board of Directors to guide the company’s leadership in the right direction.

Why don’t we, as individuals with ambitious goals, have our own Personal Board of Directors to guide us?

How I plan to pay it forward

That’s why I started Dreami —a welcoming environment to foster mentorship relationships at scale.

My goal in starting Dreami is to truly see everyone exceed their limitless potential.

In fact, I believe that together, we are limitless.

This was the case when Dreami was a passion project back in 2020, and is still the case as we enter 2023.

The future of work is rapidly changing. Gone are the days where we need to map out our career trajectories in silos. The future of work is powered by community.

And it’s time to build yours.



Avid outdoorswoman, engineer and founder of Dreami. On a mission to make mentorship accessible for all.

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Ash @ Dreami

Avid outdoorswoman, engineer and founder of Dreami. On a mission to make mentorship accessible for all.